Appropriately mourning at a ball
Fun Fact: Black was a really popular color in the late 19th century! Someone in full mourning would not be out at a ball. Mourning dress is not categorized just by black clothing. Fabrics could not be shiny and elements of white or non-black jewelry and beading could only be added during the Half-Mourning period
Appropriately at certain times woman in mourning or half mourning were allowed out at small family gatherings of up to 15 to 20 people were there would be dancing and games although it would be frowned upon if the woman in mourning did anything more than. Politely chat with the older matrons of the family. In the case of an engagement party small beading would have been appropriate. Other colors of mourning Include lavender, and dark grey. In half mourning lavender was allowed. And a woman in half mourning could were dark fabric with an sheen to it as long as she was among family. Black was not considered in good taste unless one was in mourning of some kind or a declared widow who would be in mourning until her death.